Being Pretty Isn’t Enough, Have Something to Say

Don't Be The Pretty Girl with No PurposeI’ve been carving out time within the last week to revisit what I’ve done the past year, what I can do differently moving forward and how I can continue to add value to not only my life, but those around me. I understand the fact that I’m building a brand on the internet, and that the internet is a visual place, but the last thing I want is to be just another pretty face floating around on it. In fact, I’ve met people in person who are actually impressed that I can hold a decent conversation. The questions I’m constantly asking myself are 1) “how can I lead by example while teaching as I learn?”  2) “how can I connect with like-minded women?” and lastly, 3) “how can I help them get better, do better, do more?”. Essentially this blog is for you, as much as it is for me and it’s so important to me that I actually have something to say, as opposed to just posting; which isn’t difficult for me. If you haven’t noticed, I always have something to say.

Because so much of what I do consists of me being on the Internet, I’m on social media a lot. What I do know is, we are lucky to be alive in a time like now. A time where we have technology at our fingertips. It allows us to build businesses, brands, connect with people we would’ve never met and in essence, become whoever we’d want to be. We’re also lucky to be in the midst of a time where women are really doing it. We are the business owners, the politicians, the executives, the lawyers and the doctors. From the outside looking in, we’re beautiful. There’s no shortage of attractive women in 2016 and the proof is right on the explore page of your Instagram app. Wherever you look, you’ll find women with ideal bodies, long hair, lashes and nails and wardrobes you envy. They’ve got luxury cars, bags and lives. Honestly, it blows my mind. They’re allllll pretty. They’re all put together, they’re all making moves. Or at least that’s what it looks like, right?

I’m not here to tell you whether or not I think it’s necessary or appropriate, I’m here to talk about how much more you can be as a woman. Being pretty isn’t enough and quite frankly, you deserve to be so much more. Simply looking good isn’t a good look. What good does it do a woman to be able to dress the part, contour the part, persuade others you are the part when you’re actually aimless and empty? The Snapchat filters are fun and the selfies are flawless, but your value isn’t tied to your aesthetics. We don’t want to assume you’re mouthing the words to every song on camera because you have nothing else to say. What do you have to share with us that’s deeper than the curves you wear? What do you believe in? What’s important to you? Being human, especially a woman, is unbelievably complex. We know there’s more to it than what you allow to look seamless on social media.

Your significance isn’t dependent relationships, your sex appeal, expensive purchases or follows. Don’t be that pretty girl with no substance, who stands for nothing and has nothing valuable to say. You have something to share with others that could change their lives and thoughts. You’re the unique owner of a purpose God specifically gave you that is so much more profound than Instagram likes. I never want my photos to outweigh my passions. Moving forward, here’s to being true to you. Honoring your truths, lifting others up as you get better and committing to do so daily. I’m appreciate the pretty girls who make a difference. Comment below, I’d like to connect!

21 Comments

  1. Brooke
    December 23, 2016 / 11:37 am

    Well said!

    • Courtney
      December 27, 2016 / 6:10 pm

      Thank you Brooke! <3

  2. December 23, 2016 / 12:07 pm

    Yass! Cheers to this! Is easy to get caught up in the social media hype and then you have to get in tune with reality. When the makeup comes off and the filters go away or when you have go actually interact with people in real life, can you hold a good conversation. Its crazy I talk to guys and they say its nothing to find a pretty girl but they don’t last long after having a conversation with them. Good read <3

    • Courtney
      December 29, 2016 / 11:26 am

      Jasminne, I have those same conversations with my male friends. They’re handsome, educated, successful and single as hell lol they live in major cities with beautiful women but have difficulty finding one with substance. I’m glad you enjoyed it, thank you for reading!

  3. Raquelle
    December 23, 2016 / 12:08 pm

    Love this so much. Your blog is my absolute favorite! Thank you for always creating meaningful posts & thank you for posting this message. Definitely a good one to read and reflect on before 2017!

    • Courtney
      December 29, 2016 / 11:27 am

      Thank you so much Raquelle! I’m glad you enjoyed it! xx

  4. SJ
    December 23, 2016 / 2:42 pm

    Love Love this post!!! Thank You!!!

    • Courtney
      December 29, 2016 / 11:29 am

      Thank you for reading SJ! I’m happy you loved it 🙂

  5. December 23, 2016 / 9:28 pm

    I absolutely love this post! I literally was just thinking about this topic earlier. So many young women feel the need to objectify themselves for likes and attention, but often times that’s all they have to offer. I’m not against using your looks to your advantage, because that is the society we live in. I too would like to see more women use it to the advantage of using their voice and making a bigger impact. This is still “a man’s” world. This past election made that very clear. I feel that if we want to see a change we have to stop competing with one another and start lifting one another up. Which is exactly why I enjoy reading your blog. I look forward to your posts. I also want to encourage you to keep up the good work, because I know it isn’t easy. I commend you for keeping up with a blog and having a daytime job. Women like you rock in my book.

    • Courtney
      December 29, 2016 / 11:31 am

      Yes! Your comment is so on point and thank you sooo much for the kind words. It’s women like you who this blog is for so I’ll try my best to keep the posts coming. Thank you for reading Christina!

  6. December 24, 2016 / 9:11 am

    An essential post!! I always enjoy reading your work ! I relaunched my blog from being inspired by one of your posts!! You are doing a fantastic job! Hope to connect and collab!

    • Courtney
      December 29, 2016 / 11:33 am

      That makes me so happy to hear! I just took a look at it your site and saw we have the same Today & To Do planner from Target. Great minds! 😉 Keep at it baby doll. Someone somewhere needs to hear what you have to say. xx

  7. Tiara
    December 24, 2016 / 9:56 am

    Way to go, Courtney! I talk about this all of the time. Keep it up girl!

    • Courtney
      December 29, 2016 / 11:33 am

      Thank you boo! I’ll try my best 🙂 xx

  8. December 27, 2016 / 11:07 am

    I cant say this enough. “Thank You.” Your words are so eloquent and inspiring. I read one of your posts and I’m immediately motivated! You’re one of the top 5 blogs I read. Thanks again for sharing 🙂

  9. December 27, 2016 / 12:54 pm

    Cheers to you and this post! Yesssssss! Right on time.

    • Courtney
      December 29, 2016 / 11:39 am

      Thank you baby doll! I’m glad you enjoyed it! xx

  10. Courtney A.
    March 13, 2017 / 12:19 pm

    I’m a lot late, but Christina’s feature brought me the the site! This resonated so much with me. Social media tends to creep in and make others doubtful about a lot but the main thing is beauty. I always tell myself this……beauty can have an expiration date, but when you have a dope soul, strong work ethic and drive….all else fails in comparison! Social media has hindered us as a society especially women….people only care about pictures….what are they suppose to do when others get tired of just looking at their pretty face ,,,,,if you can’t hold even a half decent conversation, you are done!

    • Courtney
      March 14, 2017 / 9:07 am

      Truth! Beauty is external. How you’re feeling and being treated is most important. Thanks for reading Courtney!