A New Kind of Self Care in 2018

New Kind of Self Care in 2018 | The B Werd

When I look back on 2017, I feel like I squeezed an entire year into six months. It moved so quickly, I worked so hard and I accomplished so much. I celebrated, I explored, I grew, and I did a lot of things I told myself that I would. With pushing all of my limits came consequences. Feeling tired was an everyday thing. I also had two major health scares that included a disabling headache that lasted for four days straight and a ringing in my ear that caused temporary loss of hearing and lack of balance. It was more than scary, it was a wake up call to learn to prioritize better. It was a wake up call not to recognize when I’m doing myself more harm than good by running myself thin.

Not only did 2017 test me, I tested myself. I rarely took breaks in the name of “work” and that left me burnt out, overwhelmed and exhausted. In 2018, I’m dedicated to working just as hard in my business but more importantly, even harder to make sure that I take better care of myself. At the end of the day, if I’m not in the best shape physically, mentally and emotionally, I can’t give my best to anything else I want to pursue. We’ve been convinced that self care is monthly facials and massages or a bottle of champagne with pizza for a night in, but it’s much more than that.

I’ve learned the hard way that self care isn’t always glamorous and rarely involves lighting scented candles or dropping bath bombs in a tub. In fact, it’s actually much uglier than that. Self care is likely sitting at a table reviewing your debt and creating a plan to tackle it. It’s putting your phone down at 10 pm to make sure you can get out of bed the first time your alarm goes off for that 6 am workout. It’s being realistic about what you want to achieve and not over-promising results. It can even look like cutting ties with toxic people in order to better serve yourself. As much as we’re all aiming to achieve, self care should be preventative. It shouldn’t be something we result to after we use up every ounce of energy we have or cause ourselves to break down.

A lot of people are in the process of planning their 2018 New Years Resolutions, if they don’t already have them secured. Instead of planning to start a diet for the 10th time or committing to making a million dollars, I want us to focus on making resolutions to add value to our lives. Wake up and tell the people that matter to you that you love them, call your grandmother and take her to lunch, tell people you appreciate them so they know they’re cared for, schedule doctor and dentist appointments and create new habits that improve your overall well being. Read more books, get more rest and Find more ways to create passive income instead of exchanging time for money.

This year, let’s let self care mean being the hero of your life, not the victim. Let it mean rerouting what you do and how you do it until your everyday life isn’t something you need a vacation to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It’s letting go of  some goals so you can focus more on others. It’s being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It’s meeting your own needs so you aren’t constantly anxious and dependent on other people.

Self care this year means doing better and becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that bath bombs and champagne are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it. I hope your 2018 looks exactly how you imagine. I’m going to try my damnedest to make sure mine does.

22 Comments

  1. January 3, 2018 / 10:24 am

    Loved this Honey Bun! This is exactly where I am too! Self-care that adds value to my life! -Keep pushing. Mama E 🙂

    • Courtney
      January 4, 2018 / 3:35 pm

      Thank you Mama E! You know we’re prone to wear ourselves down and out, but I’m determined to do things differently this year. Thank you for the encouragement! <3

  2. Kiana Billups
    January 3, 2018 / 12:24 pm

    “let’s let self care mean being the hero of your life, not the victim. Let it mean rerouting what you do and how you do it until your everyday life isn’t something you need a vacation to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good.”
    That convicted me to my core! Great advice.

    • Courtney
      January 4, 2018 / 3:35 pm

      You and me both! I was talking to myself specifically when I wrote that LOL. Thank you for reading!

  3. P
    January 3, 2018 / 12:41 pm

    ALLLLL OF THISSSSSS!!! Thank you!!!

    • Courtney
      January 4, 2018 / 3:36 pm

      Thank you for reading! xx

  4. Victoria Zamora
    January 3, 2018 / 1:17 pm

    Great stuff!

    • Courtney
      January 4, 2018 / 3:36 pm

      Thank you Victoria! I’m glad you enjoyed it! xx

  5. Jessica
    January 3, 2018 / 2:12 pm

    Preach!

    • Courtney
      January 4, 2018 / 3:36 pm

      I’m just spreading the word Jessica 🙂

    • Courtney
      January 4, 2018 / 3:37 pm

      It’s soooo necessary! I hope you have a great year boo! <3

  6. Taylor G
    January 3, 2018 / 5:35 pm

    The Truth Honey!! Thanks for this and I hope you take care of yourself first this 2018!

    • Courtney
      January 4, 2018 / 3:37 pm

      That’s my #1 priority this year! I really need to work on balancing it all. Thank you Taylor!

  7. Tonaya B.
    January 3, 2018 / 6:13 pm

    Loved this thank you !!

    • Courtney
      January 4, 2018 / 3:37 pm

      Thank you for reading Tonaya! xx

  8. Erica
    January 3, 2018 / 9:10 pm

    I absolutely loved this! “It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good.” If this didn’t speak life into my soul!! Yassss!!! Big hugs to you Courtney!! You never fail to deliver!

    • Courtney
      January 4, 2018 / 3:56 pm

      Thank you so much Erica! I appreciate that. Have a great 2018! <3

  9. Jasmine
    January 4, 2018 / 10:32 pm

    This spoke to my soul, and a damn good read!

    • Courtney
      January 5, 2018 / 9:21 am

      I’m so glad you enjoyed it Jasmine, thank you for reading. And have a happy new year! <3

  10. January 10, 2018 / 1:45 pm

    So many quotable statements here! I’m happy that you are doing better. Wish you the best year yet! 🙂

    • Courtney
      January 13, 2018 / 10:54 am

      Thank you so much Kris! This year I’m determined to do it differently, but do it even better. I wish the same for you. xx

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