I am planning on celebrating my dirty 30 in Cancun, Mexico in February and have absolutely no idea where to start in finding outfits. I always dress casual mainly because I enjoy being comfortable, but I’m looking to try and shake things up a bit. Also, I’m not sure if you’ve been to Cancun but I’m going to assume you most likely have been or are familiar. Do you have any excursions, restaurants, or destinations you suggest to visit?
Ironically, I’ve only been to Cancun for their airport and to pick up my passport when I lost it (read more about that here). What I do know is that it has the most beautiful blue water and is what I call the Mexico of Vegas – a long strip of stores, bars, restaurants and hotels so you won’t have any trouble finding things to do. You can still be comfortable and Mexico appropriate! Simple maxi dresses are typically pretty inexpensive and can easily be dressed up or down. You can wear a cute romper out at night or to dinner with sandals, or even this super soft open back jumpsuit. Breezy off the shoulder dresses are perfect for the daytime and you can easily dress your swimsuits up by adding a fun sarong. I also always pack a pair of denim cut-off’s to pair with my bathing suit tops or fun blouses. All these items will still keep you comfy without you feeling like you’re in your pajamas. Enjoy Cancun and happy early birthday!
I was wondering where you go to find affordable “every day” clothes? I’m all for spending more money on my jeans, shoes, coats & purses but for some reason have the hardest time pulling the trigger on loungewear and blouses/tops more than $45. I just see how trends are always changing and I cheap out. Do you have this problem?
Yes! I’ll pick up a blouse for $80 at Zara and literally frown my face up LOL. If I know I’m going to be able to mix-and-match it as well as wear it for the next few years, I’ll bring it home with me. When it comes to basics, I typically shop at the same handful of stores, Forever21, Target, Nordstrom, Missguided, Revolve, Express and ASOS. My strategy for making sure I don’t go purchase crazy at any of these is to sort whatever I’m looking for by price, high to low, and see how many cute pieces I can find under $50. When I hit my limit I check out and call it a day.
When building a brand and capturing your audience, you have noted in prior posts to leverage your current following (i.e. Instagram) versus creating a whole new social media platform. This advice has helped me personally while creating a following organically. But let’s say you are a jack (or jill) of more than one trade. While your respective niches may overlap each other, is there a good time to separate your instagram pages? For example, if someone wants to highlight more of their own photography skills versus their killer fashion – should they think about creating a social media page just for one or the other?
Multiple Instagram pages can really be more hurtful than helpful because it can already be so incredibly time consuming to run even one page – but I can certainly see why it’s necessary. If you are not your brand, and your brands have their own identity, I’d certainly split them up. You have to be very strategic about who you attract to where. If I love fashion and grow a following of fashion-lovers, they won’t like when I start talking about photography out of the blue – and potential followers who are into photography won’t know that I love photography by looking at a page full of photos where I’m dressed up in the middle of the street. Before I even had a blog, I still loved what I built my brand around, dressing well, traveling and business – so my followers weren’t surprised when I took it up a notch. Statistics prove that followers don’t like change, so put specifics in front of who you know will enjoy it.
I’m getting engagement photos taken in Dallas at the end of March or beginning of April. I would love to do a long dress and am open to any suggestions you have!
Ahhh, congratulations! I still haven’t gotten around to taking engagement photos but know for sure I want a fancy dressed up shoot. Here are some gorgeous options!
How do I discover my calling or my potential if I don’t really know myself yet?
“Knowing ourselves” is all relative to where we are in our life. We know ourselves as we are today, and may be so much more tomorrow. I felt like I “knew myself” at 21, and rediscovered myself at 23, and it seems like again every year after that. We’re constantly evolving but the best way to get to know the woman that you are today is to spend a lot of time alone with her figuring her out. What does she really want? What does she like to do when she has free time? What does she long for when she’s all alone? What does her perfect life look like? The sooner you get honest with yourself, the sooner you’ll start to learn more of who you are.
I love that you always wear a watch. I’m looking to add some to my wardrobe, hopefully under $200 if possible! Any options?
I literally feel naked without one. Here’s a round-up of some I love that can easily be worn everyday –
As someone who just received their masters last May and has started her first professional position, how do you exude the confidence when sharing your expertise with others as well as navigating new cultures?
I watched a Ted Talk years ago on how our body language speaks before we do and it really helped me with my mannerisms at work; particularly because I work mostly with men. Try changing your posture, where you put your hands and how you sit and see how differently it makes you feel. What reasoning do you have to feel anything but confident? You’ve got the education and the degree to prove you know what you’re talking about. Confidence comes with trusting yourself.
I’m currently planning my 25th birthday trip slated for early August and I wanted some suggestions for a great destination for a girls trip. I prefer something in the Caribbean or Central America. My main priorities are safety, nightlife, and excursions and activities.
I’m going to tell you like I tell everyone else, GO TO MEXICO! LOL Mexico is my favorite place on earth, if I could visit four times a year, I would. It’s close (I hate going places that take me too long to get there), inexpensive and there are so many locations to choose from. I’ve been to Playa Del Carmen multiple times, Tulum and Cabo San Lucas twice. I’d also recommend are Costa Rica. A group of 10 of us went and we had back-to-back fun. The food was DELICIOUS! Montego Bay was one of my favorite trips last year. Jamaica is such a feel good place. If you haven’t been to Cuba, that’s also a great option. The culture is rich and there’s so much to see and do. The Dominican Republic and Barbados were both beautiful, but aren’t anywhere I care to go back to. There wasn’t much to do outside of the beach. Other people enjoy Belize, but I personally did not so I wouldn’t suggest you go there. I traveled to all of these places with women, had a great time in each and believe me, they will offer you a million things to do if you’re a tourist so excursions wouldn’t be my concern. Enjoy your birthday!
Going to Cabo for a long weekend in 2 weeks. Any cute swimsuit, daytime or dinner outfits you’ve seen? I pretty need help with everything LOL
I love Cabo! It’s a place where you can be super dressy and barefoot all at once. Here are some options worth packing!
I’m looking for black or nude date night heels that can be worn all night (I like to dance!) under $150.
I feel your pain LOL. All of these shoes come in both nude and black and are pretty comfortable. Heel height is going to be your preference but I have no complaints about any of these brands or styles. I hope this helps!
Do you have any vacations lined up for 2018? I love how your trips always brighten up your feed!
We were planning to go to Europe for my birthday since I’ve been obsessed with it since my trip to Italy, but I decided against it because weddings are expensive as hell and we don’t need to blow money right now lol. I’m trying my best to make good grown up decisions since I’m not a “single” woman who only has to worry about herself anymore. We’re taking a quick beach trip for my birthday and going to a wedding in Mexico in May – but that’s about it!
A lot of questions this week, whew! Thank you guys for sending them in! Send any questions you want answered for next week to email@example.com or comment down below. I’m gonna spend my weekend touring wedding venues and wrapping up recordings for my upcoming e-course, fun stuff LOL. You guys have a great weekend! xx
I’m one of those girls who keeps a book close by to pull out of my purse in a waiting room or in a coffee shop. My nightstand has them stacked high and I have drawers full of books. I’m such an advocate for reading because it changed the dynamic of my life. Reading is something that will expand the way you think, take you places your feet never would’ve and teach you things you would’ve otherwise gone without knowing. Books aided me in my own self discovery, they mended my broken heart, and gave me the courage to go after the life I wanted for myself. There’s so much to be discovered between the pages of a good book, so in 2018 I’m challenging myself and you guys if you’d like to join, to one book a month.
Here are the books I’ve picked up and are planning to read, or reread because they’re that good.
I read this book in one sitting on a plane ride headed to visit Christina in LA – that’s how good it was. I even got emotional at one point in the book because I related to her passion so closely. Nely Galan is a Cuban immigrant who went from being the minority, to being the boss. What I enjoyed most about her book was that she gave real step-by-step instructions on what we should be doing, how hard we should be working and how much we should be saving. This book definitely lit a fire under me to do more and get going on the ideas I had in my head.
An oldie but a goodie. A Communications Executive, Aliza Licht, dishes on how to land your dream job, kill it in your career and rock social media. My career’s really important to me, and so is the brand I’ve built for myself so this is a gem I can continually revisit for advice and ideas on how I want to move forward with both. It’s an easy read and definitely worth your time.
Nate picked this book up recently and after sharing a few excerpts with me I decided to read it myself. Without us even realizing it, our ego holds us back from so much. It stands between us and who we really are, our success, and who we have the potential to become. This was an eye opening read that revealed some of my flaws that I had not yet recognized. If you’re looking to shed layers you no longer need, this book is for you!
This book brought me to tears. At 36 a neurosurgeon, Paul Kalanithi, went diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer. He takes you through his journey of going from treating the dying, to fighting to live. A book that will truly change the way you think and open up your eyes to the blessings in everyday.
I fell in love with Tiffany Haddish after watching Girls Trip and tuned into everything she appeared on after that. But her story is so much deeper than her being talented. Tiffany grew up in foster care in South Central Los Angeles and would make people laugh as a route of survival. Her recount of how she came from nothing and nowhere to achieve her dreams by owning, sharing, and using her pain to heal others isn’t just entertaining, it’s incredibly inspiring.
I read this book over the span of Hurricane Harvey and couldn’t put it down. This book is about forgetting trying to inch your way up a corporate ladder, finding hacks in business and reaching the top your way, on your own time. He also doesn’t just encourage you, he gives you step-by-step instructions to turn your passion into a full-fledged business. A great read for those wanting to do more than go to a job 5 days a week.
This book was gifted to me when I was a junior in college by an entrepreneur who also happened to be a good friend. It was one of the best gifts I’d received. It teaches you what makes great leaders and how to become one. The timing of the book was perfect, since I was getting ready to step out into the “real world”. I can truly say that this book helped me be a leader in my environment regardless of my age. Leadership is a characteristic, not something you qualify for. If you learn the laws of leadership, people will follow.
I’m a huge fan of Rupi Kaur and admire her transparency so much. Her first book, Milk and Honey took me on a roller coaster of emotions but also reminded me how strong and powerful I was. I expected nothing less from The Sun and Her Flowers. This book personifies how we grow, wilt and bloom as people and is just as poetic as her first book. A must-read!
Believe it or not, I keep a mini-version of You Are a Badass in my purse to pull out in times of need. It’s straight to the point, an easy read and hits you right where you need it. I recently listened to a Podcast with the author, Jen Sincero, and I fell even more in love with her candid, no-filter, inspiring attitude. If You Are a Bad Ass with Money is as impactful as You Are a Bad Ass, I’ll be incredibly pleased with the read.
Which books do you guys have on your list? Share below which books are worth an additional read!
If you follow me on Instagram, you already know I preach about switching skincare regimens with the seasons. When the temperature changes, my skin can easily go from oily to dry, from sensitive to rough. It’s my job to make sure I’m nourishing not just my face, but all of my skin in a way that’s sufficient. As I get older, taking care of my skin has become much more of a priority than it was in my early 20’s when I was lucky if I even took my makeup off before bed. Now that I know better, I try my best to do better – but little did I know, I was doing so much wrong. I’m partnering with Dove Advanced Care to share my skincare essentials and talk about why Dove Advanced Care Antiperspirant is a great place to start.
I made the mistake of ignoring the fact that I have pretty sensitive skin, so when my skin would react to products that weren’t good for it I accepted it as normal instead of taking heed to the red flags. I originally switched over to Dove Advanced Care for the 48-hour odor and wetness protection it promised since my workdays are so unpredictable! I was in for such a surprise after experiencing added skin care benefits for softer, smoother underarms. I started with the Soothing Chamomile since I was experiencing irritation from over-shaving and uncomfortable fabrics, and eventually darker underarms as a result of that. It only took a week for to see an improvement in the texture and coloration of my skin. I now rotate between the Soothing Chamomile and the Beauty Finish that literally leaves your skin sparkling.
Dove Dermatologist, Dr. Alicia Barba, shared three easy implementable changes with me that you can make in the Fall and Winter that will make big differences when Spring rolls around. Check them out below!
Care For Your Underarms
I was so rough on my underarms without even realizing it. I’d shave them at the sight of any sort of hair and never moisturize them. Underarm skin is sensitive and an area that shouldn’t be overlooked, Dr. Barba says. I didn’t realize until recently that textures and fabrics in sweaters, undergarments and t-shirts can irritate your skin. Underneath all those layers, you’ll need a product that keeps you hydrated and protected. Dove Advanced Care Antiperspirant is formulated with moisturizers to help alleviate irritation and leave you with softer and smoother underarms. I’d show you before and after photos but I’m too embarrassed LOL!
I have no idea why I assumed that scrubbing my face to death would eliminate blemishes, when in fact it did the opposite. Over-exfoliating can strip the skin of its essential oils leading to breakouts, especially in the dryer, colder months. A misconception is that rubbing off dead skin cells daily will improve skin, when it actually can dehydrate it. Now I use a gel cleanser daily and a beaded exfoliator only twice a week.
Don’t Just Moisturize What Can Be Seen
Am I the only one who only moisturizers what can be seen, like my hands and ankles? LOL! When the weather allows us to wear less, we moisturize more – but it can be easy to neglect our covered areas when we swap in our less-revealing winter wardrobes. You want to make sure you don’t forget to care for your neck, chest, hands, and anywhere else all year long. Moisturize beyond the face. Fall and winter are the time to give extra care to the areas you tend to neglect. Come spring, your healthy skin will thank you.
Less is More
When my skin would give me trouble, particularly my face, I would go overboard with products, scrubbing and washing when what I needed was so much less. My new routine, recommended by Dr. Barba, is as simple as washing my face before bed, applying a retinol, then moisturizing my face, neck, chest and hands.
How do you care for your skin during colder months? Share in a comment below!
*This post is in partnership with Dove Advanced Care Antiperspirant. All opinions are my own.*
I attribute a huge amount of the woman that I am today to Sex And The City. It may sound ridiculous, but I learned some legitimate life lessons that shaped the idea of what I wanted my life to be like and exactly how I wanted it to look. I can remember a significant amount of time where I felt like I didn’t even need friends thanks to Charlotte, Carrie, Samantha and Miranda. There was an episode for every possible womanhood scenario and coming from where I’m from, I didn’t get to see many women like them with my own two eyes too often. What I loved most about Sex And The City was that nothing was left out. The realities of friendships, dating, careers and aspirations were all addressed from four different women’s point of view.
I probably wasn’t any older than 12 with these visions of myself walking down the sidewalk in designer high heels in a big city, sitting in front of a window writing about love on my MacBook just like Carrie, living unapologetically like Samantha, owning a room full of men as the only woman like Miranda, all while being as optimistic as Charlotte. I was certain that my 30-something year old life would consist of being able to meet my girlfriends for lunch, stroll into Barney’s and buy a few things without looking twice at the price (well maybe twice because I’ll always be frugal), be a professional and most importantly be in control of my own life.
Every so often, I have these “aha” moments where I realize I’m doing exactly the things I used to daydream about. I wanted to create a Sex And The City platform specifically for women where conversations about real life were welcome and that’s exactly what I did with The B Werd. I envisioned quickly walking through airports to my next beach destination and now I’m on my second passport. I adored Oprah and wanted the opportunity to take my discussions further as a woman of color, then I was invited to speak publicly on panels and to crowds. At one point, I couldn’t afford to purchase products from some of the brands I’m now getting the chance to partner with, and now they’re willing to pay me to mention them. These were all just ideas to me previously, things that would make me smile at the thought of them. The joy you feel from your ideas is what informs the universe to bring you closer to them.
Vision is such a powerful contribution to your success. More and more I’m beginning to recognize that I’m living a life I created for myself years ago simply because I visualized it (and of course worked my ass off for it). What do you see when you close your eyes and imagine your best life? Is it you 20 pounds lighter? Is it you being flown first class to speak in front of your Alma Mater on women in tech? Is it you smiling at your kids splashing around in a pool because you were able to take them on your first family vacation? One of my favorite Bible verses is Habakkuk 2:2 where The Lord says,“Write this. Write what you see. Write it out in big block letters so that it can be read on the run. This vision-message is a witness pointing to what’s coming. It aches for the coming—it can hardly wait! And it doesn’t lie. If it seems slow in coming, wait. It’s on its way. It will come right on time.”
Today, I want you to get specific with what you see for your life and then slowly work towards making that vision a reality. Start preparing for the visions you had last year, the year before, or even as a child. Those are true desires that deserve to come to pass. Nothing you can imagine for yourself is too unrealistic or too far away, as long as you believe you can obtain even what seems to be too far ahead of you. Get going on your visions.
Do something this week to bring you one-step closer to the life you imagine and have fun while doing it. Happy Monday!